tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1956831115379158009.post3964496247191685466..comments2023-11-02T11:05:12.363-04:00Comments on Frum Fostering: Am I ready?Foster Imahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09851404564283332825noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1956831115379158009.post-6771158792378562892009-12-09T23:27:28.375-05:002009-12-09T23:27:28.375-05:00I think everything you write shows that you are th...I think everything you write shows that you are thinking very carefully about what you are doing. You're doing just fine, and you are right... nobody is ever ready. The first doesn't even prepare for the second. It gets a little easier around six or seven...Yondallahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10375966725096729570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1956831115379158009.post-48718382478584480542009-12-02T12:24:00.748-05:002009-12-02T12:24:00.748-05:00I think you are really doing well so far! I think ...I think you are really doing well so far! I think most/all of the things you are struggling with are the same things that every parent I know struggles with - following through, having appopriate structure, dealing with a defiant child... ALL PERFECTLY NORMAL! And, from what I can tell, Sabrina is a pretty typical little girl who is also testing your boundaries because you are new to her! Give yourself a big pat on the back, a break, and keep trying things until something works! And of course, keep blogging about it - cause we want to hear!Rachie317https://www.blogger.com/profile/14646338773104987972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1956831115379158009.post-64498250346366991062009-12-02T01:31:04.705-05:002009-12-02T01:31:04.705-05:00I haven't commented at all I don't think b...I haven't commented at all I don't think but I've been following for a while. In some ways, I'm in a similar situation, in my 30s, no children, fostering for the first time this year (now have our third child with us!) oh, and jewish although very far from frum I'm afraid! <br />I think your rather than frustrations it has been positivity that has been shining through to be honest and there will be frustrations that need to be aired. Best it is here where there are some people that can help however anonymously or where you can feel and record some of those frustrations as they happen but it doesn't come across that you are remotely negative and certainly, as others have said, prepared is as prepared does - if I have learnt anything over the last few months (we actually had our first foster child arrive in April - the day before the Easter holidays.. ). Is that however prepared you are, you probably aren't 'ready'.. because that's what experience makes you. I've had to adjust expectations an awful lot, my own as much as any - but through your writing you express a enormous amount of reflection and consideration as well as positivity that I've found inspiring. <br />I know I'm no expert but am just a few months down the road from you.. in a lot of ways, I had and still have the same concerns - I am not a 'parent' so how will I handle x, y or z. But I expect I do the same as anyone and use a mixture of common sense and compassion - one without the other can't work! <br />But I think you are doing a more than admirable job there!Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12652768793937457682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1956831115379158009.post-6631532049322175852009-12-02T00:45:23.904-05:002009-12-02T00:45:23.904-05:00I don't think anybody is "ready" to ...I don't think anybody is "ready" to be a foster parent. You just do it, and either it works out or it doesn't. If you are enjoying what you are doing, then keep doing it. If you hate it and start to feel burnt out, then quit.<br /><br />My only advice is don't be in a rush to adopt, and <em>do not</em> finalize if you have any doubts or reservations whatsoever.FosterAbbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11431773317761777407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1956831115379158009.post-85679456577426903162009-12-01T23:42:20.995-05:002009-12-01T23:42:20.995-05:00I know I haven't talked to you or commented in...I know I haven't talked to you or commented in a while, but I think you are doing GREAT! I love your Sabrina-isms. I am learning a lot about parenting while reading about the ways you handle certain situations (and wondering how I would handle them...you know, I've been taking care of other people's kids my whole life, but am questioning how I would deal with someone else's kid who actually is MY kid for the time being...that is definitely different!) Anyway, like you say, I don't think ANYONE is really "ready" for all that comes with parenting...in fact, I think most people just "wing it" ;o) Keep up the great work!!<br />:o)Just Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13107897626295034178noreply@blogger.com